15 biggest pet peeves of wedding guests that will keep them from attending your nuptials

Nicholas Murphy

Weddings aren’t just expensive for the bride and groom – new research has shown that wedding guests in 2022 must also pay an average of £1,203.

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This huge expense is just one reason your guests may turn down your invitations, but can you guess their other pet peeves? While some things may be out of your control as the bride and groom, there are a few adjustments you can make to ensure your big day is as enjoyable for your friends and family as it is for you and your partner.

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Steven Pierre Jewelers polled 2,000 Britons to find what makes a wedding guest most likely to turn down an invitation and, unsurprisingly, 27.82% said they couldn’t afford the cost. After money, the location of the wedding was extremely important, with 23.88% saying a long commute would prevent them from attending, and 16.5% saying having to stay overnight is a barrier.

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The date and guest list were also on their minds. According to the study, 14.31% would consider refusing an invitation for a weekday wedding and 13.71% do not wish to take time off.

Factor in potential childcare, family arguments, and other guests, and there are a plethora of reasons why people might hesitate when it comes to saying “yes.”


Local weekend weddings are likely to suit more guests

Seven Stone revealed that certain factors apply more to women than to men, and vice versa. On average, women are less likely to attend a wedding, with the expense bothering them twice as much. Men, however, are more concerned with long journeys and dislike other wedding guests.

Here is the full list of the top 15 reasons guests won’t attend a wedding:

1. Can’t afford the overall cost – 27.82%

2. A long journey – 23.88%

3. Partner was not invited – 19.94%

4. Hating one or more wedding guests – 18.32%

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5. Not knowing many other wedding guests – 17.20%

6. Having to stay one/several nights – 16.50%

7. It’s a weekday – 14.31%

8. Having to book non-work vacations – 13.71%

9. Uninvited children – 12.31%

10. Potential Family Arguments – 11.07%

11. Not having a guess to take as a plus – 9.47%

12. Being only invited to the evening reception – 8.33%

13. Do not drink alcohol – 7.63%

14. The ceremony is too long – 6.73%

15. Recently went through a breakup – 6.08%

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Many patrons expect evening food and drink

So how can you make your nuptials more suitable for your loved ones? Hosting the celebrations at your local church or venue will solve travel issues, and choosing a weekend will mean more people can attend, as long as it suits your budget and personal preferences.

When it comes to money, the research also looked at customer expectations if they attend – and evening food, shows and at least one free drink at reception rank in the top five.

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